Well there are a few things I have discovered about this new path in my life…the first one is the realization of the magnitude of the opportunity cost of doing something you should not/ do not want to do; and the second one, much related to the first is, things get a bit clearer when you hit 25 because you no longer have the leisure of time that you once had when you were 18 (yes, 25 is still young you may say, try convincing a rampantly ambitious millennial).
The underlying outcome of both of these realizations is that you get to know yourself a bit better. All of these wild thoughts and ideas I’ve had, and thought I really wanted to achieve, when I look at how valuable time is, I have had to sit myself down, have a DMC and ask “why?”… why is achieving A,B or C so important to me? Yes it generally is a good idea to study further, buy property and get married, but is it a good idea for me and does this generic life- template apply to my life, and why?
While studying and working can be a rewarding experience, Some important things to clarify BEFORE going down that path are:
- “Why am I doing this?”
- “What do I expect to get out of this experience/ investment?”
- “Will the short-term sacrifice lead to MY PERSONAL long-term satisfaction?”
- “Can I live with the opportunity cost of my decision?” because you must be able to derive some benefit in the end otherwise its a foolish decision.
The answers to these question, your “why” are exactly the things that will see you through when your fellow classmates are dropping out like flies, when you have 4 hours of sleep for two weeks straight and when you’re lying in your bed stressing about how the hell you’re going to make it through the next 24 hours. Your “why” in conjunction with your sacrifices will truly be worth it, and you will appreciate the journey so much more if you are doing what you are doing because YOU know why, and it isn’t a societally enforced requirement.
“If it were easy, everyone would be doing it and that is why the rewards will be so much sweeter.”
I can tell you right now, working and studying 70% of the time is not fun. You really do miss out on life, quality time with family, giving 110% (unless you are me) at work and still having that time to relax and recoup. My family has coined me as “Miss I don’t have time” because thats the one phrase I say so often this year. All this sacrifice and missed time must really be worth it or else you’re honestly just wasting your time.
The last thing I wanted to touch on was the part around things getting clearer with time. Besides getting a year older, I have had this dull panic around being “somewhere” before my 30s. The self- inflicted pressure is really teaching me how to make decisions over a short period (5 years) and logically think through the pros and cons of my short- term satisfaction vs long term pleasure. Studying and working makes you such an efficient person, your body and mind learn to do things you never thought were humanly possible if you are hungry enough to take yourself there. However, in those extreme states you really learn to quickly see what in your life is a waste of time, what you hate as well as what you truly love. you learn the power of your mind, the power of positive thinking and you also develop the skill of making decisions….quickly.- something I really struggled with as I am an avid rabbit- hole explorer!
I personally still have 7 months to go on my business school journey and I can say with certainty that I love it and it has been one of the best decisions in my life. very challenging but because I am in the right state of mind and my “why” supersedes and doubt, turmoil or stressful situation, the ROI of my experience is exponential.
Wishing all you fellow multi- taskers nothing but the best on your journey! Stay strong and focussed! If it were easy, everyone would be doing it and that is why the rewards will be so much sweeter.