What does the (wo)man in the mirror whisper to you?

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Photo by Olayinka Babalola on Unsplash

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.”

—Ralph Waldo Emerson

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How to discover your purpose: 4 questions to ask as a guide

For so long I wandered…. wandered and wondered where exactly from the sky my purpose will fall. In 2017 I decided, I’m fucking picking something. If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work and if it does then great! I would have stopped wondering and starting working.

The minute I decided to focus my attention on myself as a brand and a product so much started making sense. The world is very much like a theme park, except without a theme, just rollercoaster everywhere and it’s very easy to find yourself being mesmerized by something because everyone else is staring or everyone else is queuing for the said experience. What I realized when I focused on myself was that my passions and strengths and somewhat of a purpose is already embedded within me and it shows itself very prominently everyday if I just decided to focus and think.

I’m not saying I’m an expert at discovering purpose but I definitely can say I’ve discovered a method of questioning myself that has made a lot of sense for the first time in a long time of searching and I want to share them with you (and it doesn’t involve what you loved doing as a child cause quite frankly when I was 3 I wanted to be a singer and a dancer and I cannot do either to save my life right now)!

If you have ever wondered or asked yourself what your purpose is/ what you should be doing with your life/ how you can spend your time on earth more meaningfully, ask yourself the following 4 questions that will reveal to you, your natural abilities and competitive advantage which you can then apply in a work or personal environment:

1. What do I like?

2. What do I spend my spare time doing? (watch out for this one and compare your answers with question 3, when I reflected on this question it became quite evident that although a specific thing came naturally to me, if I had all the money in the world, I wouldn’t do it- this thing for me was being a DIY hairdresser for myself and my family. I will not be opening a hair salon anytime soon thank you so much haha)

3. If money wasn’t a factor, what are the things I do for the rest of my life?

4. What do people naturally come to me for advice on?

Let me know how it goes and whether this method helped you as much as it’s helped me so far!

Quote #2

The man who follows the crowd will usually get no further than the crowd. The man who walks alone is likely to find himself in places no one has ever been before.

Creativity in living is not without its attendant difficulties, for peculiarity breeds contempt. And the unfortunate thing about being ahead of your time is that when people finally realize you were right, they’ll say it was obvious all along. You have two choices in your life; you can dissolve into the mainstream, or you can be distinct. To be distinct, you must be different. To be different, you must strive to be what no one else but you can be . . .

-Alan Ashley-Pitt

Book Review: The Alchemist

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Paulo Coelho: The Alchemist

Unlike many of these new age uncultured people, I actually still prefer to purchase and collect books. There’s something about that new book smell that makes me feel more in touch with a writer’s story and effort. Weird? I don’t know… whatever. All you need to understand is that the kindle is the last thing you’d want to buy me because I wont use that thing.

After months of procrastination and also waiting for the hype of the book to die down, I finally decided  to purchase The Alchemist on the evening of the 19th of March 2016. A purchase that left me wondering why I was such a stubborn person in life. It also turned out that that I got invited to this invisible Paulo Coelho book club where I’d earn my Paulo stripes and become a living breathing sales and marketing tool for Paulo Coelho, but not just that, reformed people like me in this camp no longer just see a day as a day; an event as an event, or even time as just time. We are deep ok!? ok. Thanks Paulo Coelho, I’m now one of the few wise ones in life…

Phase 1

Reading the alchemist was like enthusiastically starting a journey to an unknown destination and getting desert sand blowing in your eyes continuously in the first hour but still being hopeful that the environment will settle. It made me wonder if the painful whirlwind of confusion would end and whether I would eventually understand what the hell was going on in this mans mind.

Phase 2

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Image source: matrix.wikia.com “There is no spoon”

Reading The Alchemist was like expecting to find the solution to an equation that has taken you a lifetime to solve and then discovering that the solution has been embedded within the fibers of your being for eternity….

Reading the alchemist gave you the expectation that you had possibly, probably found that missing piece that would make you great, but upon discovery you realized that there was no missing piece to begin with.

Reading the alchemist, you thought that you would receive a mere fable that would take your imagination to faraway lands when upon reading you discovered that the message, the mere fable was God speaking to you, telling you to wake up and pay attention. A powerful message that resonated with your soul and fit the Bible of your life perfectly.

In conclusion

Uncompromising in his faith and belief, he inspired more than 65 million readers across the world, to believe in the greatness that lies within them.

I really commend Paulo Coelho as an artist for his magic, for never giving up on the voice of his heart, because from him, the rest of the world can draw strength and motivation to also dream. He wove spirituality in his message so well that it incepted an unknowing seed in unbelievers hearts who dared to touch this book and be inspired by the journey of a simple Spanish Shepard.

“You already have everything you need to fulfill your destiny”