The day I started my YouTube channel

Hey guys!

Hope you have been well. After 6 years of being crippled by fear and procrastination I finally decided to start my channel on YouTube.

I have realised that there are Some things that I cannot easily capture through writing and find that speaking carries the message better. The purpose of my channel is to deliver content on fitness, beauty and books in a relatable and authentic way that will give my viewers a few laughs along the way.

If you’re feeling a bit lonely and/ left out on Female Millennial Musings, maybe head on over there and see what I’ve been getting up to 😃 here’s the link to my first video, would really appreciate your support: https://youtu.be/8p_ro8ALRIY

Tshego

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Book review: Dying to be me

Hey guys! I’m back again but with a quick book review this time. Yes, I am finally part of a book club and although it is still early days there is so much I have learned from this process as I have always been a solo reader, preferring and enjoying my own selections. Now that I am in a group of 8, there are many dynamics at play, the biggest one being diversity in preferences which is both uncomfortable but enlightening. If interested I can share a bit more on my experience as well as some tips on how to start your own book club and what I would do if I could start mine over again.

I briefly engaged on our first book selection on Instagram about a month ago and you can check it out there if you are interested. Today though, I would like to share on our second book selection titled “Dying to be me” by Anita Moorjani.

Dying to be me is the second book we have selected in our book club. From the moment I began reading the first chapter I was captivated. There are many things I can pinpoint to my love for the book but my top two are how easily I could relate to the author and ease of reading. If I can imagine and buy into the author’s story, I’m a fan. If I can read more than one chapter in one sitting after a full day of work, I’m a super- fan! haha… so Anita had both for me, she wrote like an old friend and the book was set in Hong Kong which is the second last city I visited in 2018 and this made it very relatable for me.

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Tshego in Wan Chai, Hong Kong 2018

In a nutshell, Dying to be me is a book that takes the reader through the journey of the fullness of life. In the book Anita shares her background, growing up as a child in Hong Kong in a middle class household. She shares stories about her conflict growing up in environments with clashing cultures and religious beliefs and often getting stuck in the middle of her own beliefs and values, and living up to the expectations of her Indian community and parents. Throughout her life she has always felt different and not like she quite belonged.  She had always believed that human beings are greater than the social confines they place on themselves.

The turning point in her lifeI would say is when she loses two of her loved ones (a family member and a friend) to cancer. Unknowing at the time, she later explains how the fear of contracting the disease is what lead to her demise and soon after her loved ones passed away she also developed cancer.

What I would describe as the climax of the book is when she experiences what she refers to as a “Near Death Experience” or “NDE”. At this point the cancer has ravaged her body beyond believe and she is literally at deaths door when suddenly she has an out of body experience and enters the spiritual realm which she describes in detail in the book, stating that it exists all around us. In this experience she decides whether to allow herself to leave the earthly realm and live a life of fullness, unconditional love, acceptance and peace or come back to earth and truly life life fearlessly and  with conviction. I will leave the rest for you to find out from here regarding what happens and how the story ends (or continues hahaha).

I now know that everything I need is already contained within me and is completely accessible if I allow myself to open up to what I sense is true for me…

I believe that Dying to be me goes beyond just being a story that one reads. It certainly is a tool for healing, spirituality and how to live in mental and physical abundance. For me, getting to her Near Death Experiece brought me so much closure about my loved ones who have passed on/ crossed over. Some people may not believe in crossing over and reincarnation and that’s okay but this book shed some light on what it is my loved ones may have gone through and what they crossed over to, which brings me sooooo much needed closure. Another thing the book taught me was to believe in practices that spiritually move me. So it completely turns the concept of religion on its head which I love because I believe that spirituality is so complex! I will leave that one there haha… Lastly, I have learnt the importance of slowing down, (in life and in thinking) and understanding that being still does not mean regression. That taking time to acknowledge and appreciate the small things and those around me, won’t make me “miss out” on my destiny. That in fact, my inside voice is my true guide and in order to hear it I must be still and I must be deliberate about following its guide.

Lacking awareness of our perfection keeps us feeling small and insignificant, and this goes against the natural flow of life- force energy- that which we really are. We go against ourselves

There are so many things that the author Anita Moorjani has written about that just drop my jaw and move my soul. From her fear of cancer and worry of attaining the disease resulting in her ultimate (temporary) demise, to coming back to a bigger and fuller life. It’s crazy. Her writing is so beautiful and so easy. Her story just flows and its so remarkable.

Heaven is a state not a place

Anita, thank you so much for sharing your NDE with conviction. I believe that everything happens for a reason and this book couldn’t have come into my life at a better time 💗. This book has brought so much healing, so much comfort and so much perspective. Life is meant to be lived. Fiercely. It’s more than what our eyes can see.  

Book Review (unfiltered): The Four

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Okay so first of all, let’s get all the niceties out the way…

Thanks so much for stopping by!

So. I need to send out a HUGE apology to everyone who has gone out on my recommendation to purchase this book which is, in my informed and humble opinion, incredibly overpriced and to be honest a huge piece of American entrepreneur propaganda bullsh*t. Why you ask? lets get to it then!

“I hope the reader gains insight and a competitive edge in an economy where it’s never been easier to be a billionaire but it’s never been harder to be a millionaire.”

– Scott Galloway (Author of The Four)

Scott Galloway is an incredibly well- researched writer in the scope of the four companies he writes about (Facebook, Amazon, Apple and Google) however I personally think that his defense in later chapters of his book regarding why these four companies specifically and why not others was incredibly weak.

Let’s take the one example that I got to that made me throw this book away where he states reasons why Alibaba could never be a company that influences consumer culture. Bullshit right? Cause we know how big Alibaba is and how much of a big deal Jack Ma is from reading ” The house that Jack Ma built“. The author essentially writes off Alibaba based on his ignorant opinion that its not a company that is big enough in America and can therefore never even begin to compete with Amazon. Wait what? I’m not sure who deemed America the centre of the universe but last time I checked Asia has a bigger population than America and Alibaba is highly utilized in China, more so than Amazon. Sooo… how can Amazon be taking over in the bigger scheme of the rest of the world…..? Don’t get me wrong, it is an amazing organization isatin, with an amazing history, however, no corporate, no matter how big and “innovative” is immune to the burning platform syndrome.

As I said, I think the author is well researched but I loathed the ignorance and bias undertones towards a specific region so much that I literally had to throw that book away; it won’t be making it into my collection but it was certainly informative in some areas which were good enough to document.

So in conclusion, if you are looking for fast facts of “the four”, definitely pick this expensive piece of sh*t up, however if you are looking for an objective, well- written observation of who the four leading organizations are  that are taking over “the world”- don’t pick this book up. It spits on entrepreneurial efforts of billionaires with successful business models, who don’t fit the stencil of the “American dream”and God knows we don’t need anymore marginalisation in this cold world.

Some highlights and interesting observations below (if you still care to read):

Chapter 1:

  •  55% of people search for a product start on Amazon vs 28% on Google which definitely shows consumer confidence on the platform that is Amazon.

Chapter 2:

“Instinct is a powerful chaperone, always watching and whispering in your ear, telling you what you MUST do to survive”

  • Galloway sets the scene around consumerism and the role of men and women in this context by referencing Hunters and Gatherers, with a comparison of the modern day man and woman to the Paleolithic and Neolithic people

” if you google biggest mistakes in business history, the majority of results are risks that firms failed to take such as excite and blockbuster passing on acquiring google and Netflix respectively….”

  • Write up on Amazon’s floating warehouse

Chapter 10-“The Four and You”:

My favorite chapter to be honest! Galloway sneakily starts off with the following phrase

” follow your talent, not your passion”

It’s fantastic and so so relevant! In chapter 10, Galloway basically breaks down the critical components one needs in order to stand out in the 21st century. He highlights the number of “good” graduates there are but goes on to state that “good” is just not good enough to survive the digital age. He breaks down key focus areas one must master/ apply in order to beat the curve, show you have grit, and generate wealth.

These are the sorts of things your mentor must be talking to you about; sharing of insider secrets for your success, Not, “tell me how’s work?”.

page 266: together the horsemen employ 418000 employees- the population of Minneapolis. If you combine the value of the 4 horsemens public shares of stock, it comes to $2.3 trillion. CRAAAAZY…

 

 

Book Review: The girl on the train (my thoughts so far)

Why am I reading (and possibly closing out my year with) The girl on the train by Paula Hawkins? Well firstly because I needed a book that would guarantee to heal the trauma I experienced from attempting to read The heart is a lonely hunter, and secondly because I could no longer resist staring at, and not just reading the very first hardcover book to make my collection!

It’s been a week since I started reading The girl on the train and I must say, I am pleasantly surprised. From the moment I scooped this gem up at the Exclusive Books sale for R160 (from R400) I can certainly say the accountant in me was hella chuffed.

If you know me well enough you know how much I die for psycho thriller reads! When I read that The girl on the train was similar to Gone Girl, I simply couldn’t resist giving the book a chance and well… so far I must say, its pretty close!

The book is set and written in the UK. The main character, Rachel, is a millennial alcoholic divorcee whose picture perfect future was swept right under her and she is now forced to live through her ex husband moving on with a new woman that he decided to marry, have a child with (something that a barren Rachel couldn’t accomplish) and live with in a house that Rachel picked out and bought for the both of them to start their future.

At this point in the book, Rachel is basically hitting rock bottom. Her alcoholism and unemployment are at an all time high and she finds herself behaving in unexplainable ways. For reasons elaborated in the book, Rachel resorts to stalking her ex in order to cope and deal with her trauma and throughout this almost ritualistic activity, she picks up on another couple, not staying too far from her ex husband to pay interest to as well. One day, Rachel gets so intoxicated that she blacks out and the next thing she knows, she’s naked in bed with a gash on her head. the next day, the police show up at her doorstep looking for answers relating to her activities the previous night that could possibly be linked to a kidnapping (of her ex husband’s daughter) and the disappearance of the woman she stalked from time to time.

I read Gone Girl 2 years ago, although the storyline is there in my mind it is quite fuzzy. So far I can definitely see why people would compare this book to it however, something in my gut tells me that The girl on the train is hands down more well written than Gone Girl. Paula Hawkins really knows how to keep a reader in suspense and desperate to turn the pages of her story. Another thing I seem to love now which this book shares with Americanah, is that each chapter is the story of a different character, I think it’s an amazing way to tell and showcase a complex story from a specific character’s perspective while building up to a specific point when all these lives will collide and make sense as one.

All in all, so far, so amazing! I’m really enjoying The girl on the train and would certainly recommend it to anyone who enjoys psycho thrillers, suspense and just reading about messy human beings so you can live vicariously through them- or validate your own bad decisions!

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