Book review: Dying to be me

Hey guys! I’m back again but with a quick book review this time. Yes, I am finally part of a book club and although it is still early days there is so much I have learned from this process as I have always been a solo reader, preferring and enjoying my own selections. Now that I am in a group of 8, there are many dynamics at play, the biggest one being diversity in preferences which is both uncomfortable but enlightening. If interested I can share a bit more on my experience as well as some tips on how to start your own book club and what I would do if I could start mine over again.

I briefly engaged on our first book selection on Instagram about a month ago and you can check it out there if you are interested. Today though, I would like to share on our second book selection titled “Dying to be me” by Anita Moorjani.

Dying to be me is the second book we have selected in our book club. From the moment I began reading the first chapter I was captivated. There are many things I can pinpoint to my love for the book but my top two are how easily I could relate to the author and ease of reading. If I can imagine and buy into the author’s story, I’m a fan. If I can read more than one chapter in one sitting after a full day of work, I’m a super- fan! haha… so Anita had both for me, she wrote like an old friend and the book was set in Hong Kong which is the second last city I visited in 2018 and this made it very relatable for me.

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Tshego in Wan Chai, Hong Kong 2018

In a nutshell, Dying to be me is a book that takes the reader through the journey of the fullness of life. In the book Anita shares her background, growing up as a child in Hong Kong in a middle class household. She shares stories about her conflict growing up in environments with clashing cultures and religious beliefs and often getting stuck in the middle of her own beliefs and values, and living up to the expectations of her Indian community and parents. Throughout her life she has always felt different and not like she quite belonged.  She had always believed that human beings are greater than the social confines they place on themselves.

The turning point in her lifeI would say is when she loses two of her loved ones (a family member and a friend) to cancer. Unknowing at the time, she later explains how the fear of contracting the disease is what lead to her demise and soon after her loved ones passed away she also developed cancer.

What I would describe as the climax of the book is when she experiences what she refers to as a “Near Death Experience” or “NDE”. At this point the cancer has ravaged her body beyond believe and she is literally at deaths door when suddenly she has an out of body experience and enters the spiritual realm which she describes in detail in the book, stating that it exists all around us. In this experience she decides whether to allow herself to leave the earthly realm and live a life of fullness, unconditional love, acceptance and peace or come back to earth and truly life life fearlessly and  with conviction. I will leave the rest for you to find out from here regarding what happens and how the story ends (or continues hahaha).

I now know that everything I need is already contained within me and is completely accessible if I allow myself to open up to what I sense is true for me…

I believe that Dying to be me goes beyond just being a story that one reads. It certainly is a tool for healing, spirituality and how to live in mental and physical abundance. For me, getting to her Near Death Experiece brought me so much closure about my loved ones who have passed on/ crossed over. Some people may not believe in crossing over and reincarnation and that’s okay but this book shed some light on what it is my loved ones may have gone through and what they crossed over to, which brings me sooooo much needed closure. Another thing the book taught me was to believe in practices that spiritually move me. So it completely turns the concept of religion on its head which I love because I believe that spirituality is so complex! I will leave that one there haha… Lastly, I have learnt the importance of slowing down, (in life and in thinking) and understanding that being still does not mean regression. That taking time to acknowledge and appreciate the small things and those around me, won’t make me “miss out” on my destiny. That in fact, my inside voice is my true guide and in order to hear it I must be still and I must be deliberate about following its guide.

Lacking awareness of our perfection keeps us feeling small and insignificant, and this goes against the natural flow of life- force energy- that which we really are. We go against ourselves

There are so many things that the author Anita Moorjani has written about that just drop my jaw and move my soul. From her fear of cancer and worry of attaining the disease resulting in her ultimate (temporary) demise, to coming back to a bigger and fuller life. It’s crazy. Her writing is so beautiful and so easy. Her story just flows and its so remarkable.

Heaven is a state not a place

Anita, thank you so much for sharing your NDE with conviction. I believe that everything happens for a reason and this book couldn’t have come into my life at a better time 💗. This book has brought so much healing, so much comfort and so much perspective. Life is meant to be lived. Fiercely. It’s more than what our eyes can see.  

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