The dream is free, but the hustle is sold separately…

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If I had a dollar each time a male individual told me that “the world is yours”, seriously, it really would be. The sad reality though is that it really isn’t, it is everyones and the price we pay for our part of the world is taxing.

“The biggest misconception and killer of dreams is the hope that someone is coming to save you/ give you your big break. No one is coming sisi… you must come for yourself.”

As women in corporate, we now live in an era where roles and opportunities are in abundance for African females in African corporates. However, no one tells you how many obstacles you will need to overcome to attain this seat that is “waiting for you”. We are still pushing sis… in 2018 we are still breaking glass ceilings, still fighting back tears from a lack of recognition in a boardroom or for a piece of work we poured our whole existence into. still.

There is this misconception floating around with women in corporate that if we are beautiful, dress the part, are hardworking and smart, we will get recognized and rise up to c- suite level; that our work will speak for us” Its not going to happen sis. No one is coming to save you, no one will recognise you and no one will be giving you a break. It’s not unfair, it is just life. the only person who might just be able to give you your big break, if you work really hard at it, is yourself. but trust me, no one is coming to save us, we need to save ourselves…

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If

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If you can keep your head when all about you     
  Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,   
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
    But make allowance for their doubting too;   
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
    Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
    And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
    If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
    And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
    Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
    And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
    And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
    And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
    To serve your turn long after they are gone,   
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
    Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
    Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
    If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
    With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
    And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!
– Rudyard Kipling
Source: A Choice of Kipling’s Verse (1943)

My “go to” work outfit formula

My go to outfit

Sometimes shit really gets real. You have a sucky week where you need to prepare for two exams, land a big project and organize a working group with stakeholders in different time zones. Whatever happens, you need to keep the sexy alive no matter what. So what do you wear?

We all have a “go to” (or emergency) outfit in our wardrobes that we use for those lazy or crazy busy days. I have 3 and today I am going to share the formula of how you can make  a few of your own and then I will show you one of mine 🙂

In order to ensure that no matter how busy you get, you still look on point you need to ensure that in your wardrobe you have the following 4 things (more than 3 is admin):

  1. First and foremost, it must be weather agnostic, or else it cannot be used in case of ANY emergency
  2. Black cotton crop trousers
  3. a plain blouse that needs little to no ironing or buttoning
  4. Shoes that are comfortable, but don’t look it

You will see that on this list I have not included any accessories. The aim with these “go to” outfits is to look like you made enough effort not to look like the effort was “just enough”. I really like to keep my looks as minimalist as possible, if I am wearing a necklace on my super busy days, I need to be congratulated ’cause I would have gone out of my way for real. Usually its just wear a watch and studs.

Here is one of my favorite “go to” outfits that ticks all the boxes and I feel is simple yet super chic!

All black outfit